Treat yourself as you'd treat your own best friend.
(Nadia,the three haired lady above, is from dearoptimist.com)
You value your friends and those close to you; well, who is closer to you than you are? Give yourself the same kind, thoughtful, and respectful treatment that you give to other people you care about. If you had to hang out with yourself for a day, what is the most fun/enjoyable/fulfilled/calm/contented type of person you could be, while still being yourself? What is the best version of you? Believe in this idea and use that as your starting point. Love and accept yourself as you are now, just as you do for your close ones.
I don't know how many times a day hear people (including myself) tear themselves apart with self deprecating words and hurtful comments. If it's not about beauty, it's about weight, height, clothing, intellect, likability and feeling of not being enough or having enough. I don't know about you but I am sick and tired of hearing it!!!
Where is the compassion people? Turn it around. These things aren't true! Treat yourself as kind as you can. Wake up and say nice things to yourself.
I started, not too long ago, really taking a look at what I told myself about myself. I found that when I really paid attention, my days were filed with I can't do that's and he is much smarter than me etc. It was very funny to realize because I am a motivator and someone who likes to tell people they can be anything they want to be!
I started filling my days with comments to myself like you're awesome and amazing and great at certain things. I try to have compassion for myself when it is hard to think those things or a self deprecating thought arises. It's alright. It's a pattern that is hard to break, even if you aren't the biggest offender.
I remember being in grade school and the girls in my group of friends had recently learned what the word conceited means. This meant that if you thought of yourself as talented, pretty, smart, athletic, good at anything, that you were conceited. So in the tradition of peer pressure none of us bolstered ourselves on a daily basis for the fear of being considered conceited! How silly. I wish now I had walked right up and said I am an awesome singer, I rock at kickball and I look great in knee sox! There, I said it.
Whatever you are good at, like about yourself, are talented at, go ahead and realize it, scream it out loud. The best thing that will happen is you will further some of those talents and raise your self esteem. The worst thing that will happen is those people who think of you as conceited, full of yourself etc. will become less important in your life unless they turn it around and start thinking of you and themselves as wonderful, important and talented individuals.
Give yourself some love.
Be compassionate.
Move forward and cultivate!!
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