Be Yourself #3

 Stop caring about how people perceive you.

this doesn't mean that other people's opinions don't matter, they are just not SO important. If we are constantly thinking about how other people perceive us we are not open. We are always thinking only of ourselves. What do they think of ME. How do they think I am as a person, friend, lover, partner, colleague etc. It is very narcissistic and keeps us disconnected from other people. We feel distant. 


Instead try to let go and LISTEN to other people. Be interested in them and forget about yourself for just a few moments. This habit will expand until there is no more room to think about yourself all the time. 


Be open.


          Listen.


                 Cultivate.


"no one can make you feel inferior without your consent" 
                                                                        -Eleanor Roosevelt 

Those Sneaky Bad Beliefs

Ahhh..... rolling along in a good mood with lovely happy thoughts and then BLAMO! There they are, these negative thoughts that just pop into my head about my past.  It wasn't that I even did anything horrible. It wasn't that the actual event that took place was even that bad but reliving the memory of it seems to be worse than the actual event.
If this happens let yourself think the thought. Ask yourself if you believe it, really believe it. Ask yourself if it matters anymore. Ask yourself if what you remember is really what happened. Are you assuming other people's thoughts about you? Did these thoughts and opinions about you exist only in the past if at all?
Go through the emotions you are presently feeling with compassion for what you are feeling and no self judgment and then let it go. Breathe and be present. Come back to your happy thoughts.



To get rid of an internal attitude you must clearly see the mistaken belief it is based upon.
                                                                                                     -His Holiness the Dalai Lama